THE LADIES’ WORLD

Gisborne Times, Volume XXVII, Issue 2433, 23 February 1909, Page 7

THE LADIES’ WORLD

j THE CLEVER, LISTENER. • '|'] K > girl who seeks the road to popjiiaritv is more apt to find it along a silent'lane of attentive listening than on the glaring highway bristling with conversation. y} JC i will not tempt fate by monologues on her own happenings, but vdl ''.cct-p an interesting lace and silent tdf'h 10 while her in ends relate- at lengtlivhn adventures that have come their ' . , If a gi ri wants a man who is fonct of*the 'sound of his own voice to t|,ink her the most attractive creature lie let her give him the chance to talk, keep alert enough to smile or nod approval. y 0 girl is a good listener who is -content merely with not bursting into a conversation or not interrupting a bore. To listen' with far-away eyes and cars that miss the point is not a compliment, and will never win favor. jLme girls are lazy or dreamy, and, li'ating'to talk, they plume themselves on their listening powers when they should be bemoaning their selfishness. The good listener is the interested listener, she who can find something worth hearing in tile most stupid conversation. She may let her companion do most of the talking, but she will talk enough herself to show that she knows what is being talked about, and takes an intelligent interest in it.

f-yvv, SENSITIVE AND SUCCESS

Over-sensitiveness is a great barrier to success, utterly spoiling .the careers of the artistic and cultured in many cases. It should always be a mother’s duty to notice this trait in her little ones, and to train them to overcome it. For ir can be overcome. The chief ingredient of over-sensi-tiveness is an exaggerated form of self-consciousness. It must not he contused, however, with conceit or self-esteem, for it is neither the one nor/tyfotlier. Indeed, the person who isl?k'V prone to taking offence easily is the one of a naturally modest temperament, who constantly imagines that people are criticising her movements. making fun at her expense, or analysing her character, always, of course, to her detriment. A cure for over-sensitiveness is this Think loss of yourself and more of ot hers. Mingle freely with people, and become interested in matters outside yourself. Never brood over what is said to you or analyse each simple remark until it is multiplied into a mattiCjSof the greatest- importance, and sfomfin your mind, a veritable thorn. No child who cannot be counted upon as a good-humored companion 'keeps his friends long, and no child who is shunned as the result of a series of sulks will lose time in endeavoring to uproot from his character the cause of this unsociableness, if .he be wise, when he discovers the' punishment that is entailed by his behavior. THE THIN AND WRINKLED FACE. it is the woman with the tli ihjl'ice who wrinkles early in life. A diet of bananas and milk and a teaspoon ful of pure "salad oil daily is stromdy recommended for those who wish ifprill out the hollows of their checks, and thus avoid tell-tale-dines. Sandwiches of Devonshire cream and a cup of cholocate and cocoa for lunch will also help to ward off wrinkles, while maize cooked in milk is the diet that is used by Eastern women to acquire plumpness and .roundness of face. Eight hours’ sleep every night is absolutely essential for the woman who v'vshes to keep her complexion unlined. nor must she omit the closing of her eyes for at least ten minutes during the day, a precaution that will he good for her eyesight as well as for her general appearance. POISONED CUPS OE HAPPINESS.

There are women who sjjend and are spent in the service of husband and child; nay, more, who would unhesitatingly lay down life itself for them- sakes, yet who render those dear and make home unhap/y bo continual fault-finding and mourning over misfortunes past help. . They never forget, nor allow others to forget, the thorns in the path nor the lions in the way, poisoning the pleasure of to-day with the memory of past sorrow and the dread of evil to come. DRESS HINTS TO . THE STOUT. Though all the fashions seem deh>r “the daughters of the gods fimnely tall and most divinely -fair,” and slim withal, yet a woman who is stout may, to a great extent, make or mar her appearance by the way she dresses. Everything at once too plain and too fussy should be avoided, such as tailor-made dresses, which outline the figure too severely; and in the opposite direction, too many frills and furbelows, rosettes, and ornamentations. Blouses are not the best wear for her, nor ,a contrasting belt, which accentuates the waist; while, of course, black or dark colors will suit hm- style best, and long sleeves should rule. The hair should be dressed as high as possible, to give length to the face, while the front hair should not be strained away too tightly, but lightly dressed. Pattern with largo flowers or other big devices are not desirable, but stripes and plain colors are to be chosen instead. A ruffle and a high collar are not suitable, though a feather boa, as well as a large hat, will add to her good appearance. Nothing must be too tight, neither sleeves, bodice, nor skirt, as these would give a strained, bursting look, which is the last thing to be wished. k ' - THE MOTHER WHO MAKES JOY. She will not let disagreeable words he said at her .table, nor heated discussions enter into the talk of meal times. . She will not make her house.simply a place to eat and' sleep in, but ahome to live in, where - people are made happy. Sho will not permit a wrinkle to.mar her brow because a chair is moved out o-pjfcs pi ace and left there. ; She will not be cross with a son who is five minutes late for breakfast, or speak an unkind word to the daughter who has been unlucky enough to break a teacup. '