THE LADIES5 WORLD.

Gisborne Times, Volume XXVII, Issue 2671, 29 November 1909, Page 3

THE LADIES 5 WORLD.

THE ART OF RESTING

• Very few people, atwl women least of all, know how to rest'. And the best of ns, be wo over so healthy and ever so young, cannot alford to do without it. Be the tune lively, be the time long, sooner, or later, we shall have some kind of a breakdown if we continue to rise up early arid too jatc take rest. There aire plenty of people who will tell you that they never feel tired, who can keep om working or taking pleasure with scarce.v any intermission. They will tell you that they do not need as much sleep, as much repose, as other folk. And perhaps they really get more rest than others who elaborately ]nan hours of idleness. Host is a habit, Some people can..shelve their worries, change the current of their thoughts, and absolutely empty their minds at wi.l, just as they can sit down and relax every muscle as if they had pulled a lever or let go l a switch. These are those who really rest. The people who know not rest are those who 101 l about and take sleep anywhere, with their minds at "work all the time and every nerve at attention. There are shoals of -women of this pattern, hot if they would only believe that they need not “bury themselves alive” or give up gaiety in order to give, their mind and body relaxation. You can positively obtain rest amid noise and with business carried on as usual if you only go the. right way about it.— “Ambrosia,” in the “World.”

SECRETS OF POPULARITY

Never do anything that you do not feel like doing. Never hesitate to contradict people or hurt their feelings. They all like it. When people pay you attention, take it as your due. It is only right. Nothing is expected of you in return. Never fail to show, by your indifference, that you are bored when people talk about themselves or their affairs. Do not fail to throw cold water on other people’s plans and to discourage their ambitions. Nobcdy is sensitive about this. Do not, through a mistaken sense or delicacy, suppress the expression of your opinion on any occasion. That is candid. If things do not suit you, slam things around the house. Be just as disagreeable as possible. Never mind if you break a thing or two now and then. It will relieve the blood pressure on the brain.

Never sty to stop gossip, no matter if it does drive an innocent person insyrie or to suicide. 1 here is no reason why you should be deprived of a little pastime just because, of others’ sensitiveness. Pass the gossip along.—From “Success Secrets,” by 0. S. Warden.

USELESS WEDDING GIFT'S

Give something no matter what, appears to bo the motto of many -well-in-tentioned individuals'when the subjects of wedding presents comes up. Others spend not only money, but thought over the purchase of a gift, but there cannot be a moment’s doubt as to which form of present results in the mest satisfaction to the recipients. Thought does make a difference, ami does most certainly endow the gift with something more than that which is seen, something of the giver s personality and wishful desire to please There is no doubt, however, that weddin nr presents which takes the form oi cheques will, in the future, become more and more prevalent, and that .be svndieated' gift—that is to say, the offering in which many persons joinr-will increase in popularity. In this practical age there are maiij reasons why this solution of the present unsatisfactory state of tlm matter of 'wedding gifts should he found. When first- cheques wore given there was a louil outcry from sentimentalists against them. , i • Still, the custom has grown, and ts well appreciated by many brides and bridegrooms, who, with money m their pockets, can suit themselves as to wliat they purchase, instead of seeking high and low for cupboards in which to plane those gifts that do not. accord with their scheme of furnishing or that offend their personal taste. . To young couples who are going to live in out-of-the-way Quarters, or whose lives will he nomachc, the wedding gift of the ordinary description is a positive burden. Wealthy brides and Bridegrooms too —what do they want with showers of useless gifts? Even the ordinarv middle-class bride would rather in numbers of cases receive a donation for her favorite charity instead of a o-ift so useless in its character and so far from beautiful in its appearance that she does not know what to do with it.

NERVOUS CHILDREN

The nervous baby grows up into the nervous child. Unfortunately, lew mothers have ever realised the possibility of nervousness in babies. They seem to think that the • nervousness which is so common in children of the present generation is simply a causeless affliction which has suddenly, for no reason, chosen that particular child for its attention. As a matter of fact, just at this time, when no one is taking the slightest notice of the infant’s brain the nervous tissues which compose it are in their most critical state. To begin with, the brain grows more in the first two years than in all the rest of life, and during this period should be carefully shielded from anything which leads to functional activity, i.e., thinking or "noticing or otherwise using its intelligence. The habit of playing with the baby, making it laugh and crow to show off its intelligence, may delight the mother, but if repeated with any frequency is simply paving the way tor a normal baby to. grow up into a nervous child. The best treatment for baby during its first year is to attend carefully to its physical wants, and to absolutely neglect; the fact that it has a mind at all. There should be no romping or playing, or, in fact anything' which can interest or excite its mind.